Saturday, March 3, 2012

She's A Lady

Well she's all you'd ever want,  
She's the kind they'd like to flaunt and take to dinner.  
Well she always knows her place. 
She's got style, she's got grace, She's a winner. She's a Lady.  

Whoa whoa whoa, She's a Lady. 

I was reminded the other day how fortunate I am to have a daughter like mine. A situation came up, a questionable situation, involving the use of a design with no credit to the original designer. She was the designer and saw something from her blog, recreated on the cover of a magazine.

If I saw something I had designed, on the cover of a magazine or anywhere, I’d know they’d probably thought of it themselves. In her case however, it was almost a sure thing that her design had been the inspiration for their cover. She’s very well known in the blogging world, especially in the baking blogging world. There were many similarities in the picture on her blog and the cover picture. In fact, the magazine admitted their error and sent her a formal letter of apology.
Sweet Sugar Belle and the magazine...

Throughout this short lived ordeal, emotions ran high from people on both sides of the issue. The magazine had a Facebook page. Some of Callye’s supporters asked the magazine to credit her for the cover photo. Others attacked like sharks. It was like they were waiting, circling the Internet watching for traces of blood to appear in cyberspace. Callye was the blood. And she hadn’t done a thing.

I don’t know how others see me, but I think of myself as fairly easy going. I try to avoid confrontation. But like most people, I can be pushed only so far before I’ll fight back. For years I watched my mother be walked on like a doormat in various situations. Without even realizing it I vowed I wouldn’t be that way. I wouldn’t let people push me around. As I’ve gotten older, the push limit has become a lot shorter. It still takes a lot but when that last straw has been reached it might get ugly.
Sweet Sugar Belle

I read the comments and the attacks and the accusations towards Callye and I tried to keep calm. I thought it best not to be involved, mainly because I didn’t want anything I did to hurt her or her blogging success. As the day went on and people were ruder, my resolve weakened. Callye, however, didn’t say a word to address any of this. She said, "Mom, the best thing is just to be gracious".

Graciousness is about how you make the people around you feel. Francis Bacon said, “If a man be gracious and courteous to strangers, it shows he is a citizen of the world”. It’s important to learn to respond graciously to criticism, especially mean-spirited and angry feedback. Responding in kind is not the solution. It brings no value to the situation and often causes more animosity. It’s tempting, though. It might even make you feel good. But that’s only for a moment. In the end, there’s no winner. Nothing positive is gained.

I’d like to take credit for her graciousness. But I’m afraid she didn’t learn it from me. In fact, the other day when she had a ‘microphone experience’, (another blog post), she said, "Mom, I’m just like you. I said something bad and they heard me". Yes, I wanted to say something bad, especially to the haters bashing my little girl. And I did comment in a couple of places on that Facebook page. But I went back and deleted them. I stayed away until late that night. Then I went back again. One lady had taken it upon herself to personally attack Callye. Another joined in. I replied.
On the Martha Stewart Show

I was rethinking what I’d done and was going back to delete what I’d typed when Callye texted me a little after midnight to let me know the magazine had come through. That was when she received her formal letter of apology, the guarantee of a nice gift and the promise of being featured in a future magazine. Besides that, the mean, spiteful comments were deleted from their page. Mine were attached so they were gone too. Even a magazine can act with grace.

I’m proud of my daughter for so many things. I'm proud of her success. I’m proud of her for not acting like me. I’m proud to be her mother. I’m proud of her for being a lady. I hope someday I can learn to be as gracious as she.

Well she's never in the way 
Always something nice to say, Oh what a blessing. 

Whoa whoa whoa, She's a Lady. 

I went to a fun class today. They called it paper clip weaving. You don’t really weave on a paper clip but they are incorporated into a loom.
Paperclip loom, warped

Side view of loom

It’s weaving, like normal, but the paperclips make it so that there aren’t a lot of warp threads to weave in at the end. There are some limitations, as in length, but it’s a portable project that looks like it’s going to be fun.
Warped loom ready to weave

This will be a bracelet when it’s done. I’ve only worked on it about an hour and it’s coming along. I’ll post a picture of the finished project soon. If you want to see some finished projects and great ideas, head over to Our Creative Spaces and look around.
The start of a bracelet

I finished the ivory cowl, too. I don’t have plans for it and may end up gifting it.
Plain cowl--ivory yarn with a sparkle
Rolled edges on top and bottom

I saw a t-shirt once that said, “I knit so I won’t kill people”. It struck me as funny but really there’s something to it. It does keep my fingers busy so maybe I can’t type rude things. And if I stick yarn in my mouth maybe I won’t say rude things! One of these days maybe I’ll be a lady.

Well she never asks for very much and I don't refuse her. 
Always treat her with respect, I never would abuse her. 
What she's got is hard to find, and I don't want to lose her.
Yeah yeah. She's a Lady.

Talkin' about that little lady, and the lady is mine.


  1. I got caught out once *blushes* you just reminded me - I think I'm going to blog about it...pop on over and have a chuckle! xx Fostermummy

  2. Your raise a good daughter, she is amazing!!

  3. It's not easy. Sometimes I am a doormat. I wish we could do a half trade. Half yours for half mine.

    Sometimes I guess I am a doormat, and I try not to be, but it's hard to find a middle. But, I'm learning, when I have had about all I can take, the world surprises me. Not always, but sometimes.

    And even if I do get spit on, I would rather be like me then the mean ladies who came after me any day of the week. ♥ you mom

  4. There is nothing wrong with being a momma bear! Especially when your sweet cub did nothing wrong! I'm glad it all got worked out, but disappointed to hear there are such ugly people WAITING to pounce.

  5. @fostermummy...that was a good one! Sadly, I have many of those instances I can blog about! ha ha

    I had lost you and when I tried to click on you to get to your blog it was telling me it was unavailable. Finally, through an old post I could connect again! Yay!

  6. @Enid...thank you! Both you and I are fortunate we were blessed with such good kids!!

  7. handled the situation well. We all are doormats at some time or another and we all occasionally lose it! It's hard to find the balance but you are well on the way! Love you too!

  8. just comes out!! I was surprised at the haters too. Guess it was a wake up call!

  9. Wow! What a great post and I understand your need to want to take them on! Congratulations on raising a wonderful young lady. You must be so proud!

  10. I like your cowl too! :) The length looks perfect and it also looks so soft. What an interesting post. Your daughter's blog is amazing. I'm so glad things worked out.

  11. ARE a lady already! Don't sell yourself short.

    I love your cowl!

  12. I wish our president-elect would take your words to heart. Your daughter must be very special. You must be too.